Remember Your Buddy

In order to remember your buddy, you have to consistently keep them in your thoughts. We know that’s not an easy thing to do sometimes! That's why we developed some actions/steps to help you. Just by doing one (or more —challenge yourself!) from the list below will automatically help keep your buddy in your thoughts.

  • Give him/her a call, text, email, facebook message (ex. “How're you doing? Missing you… etc. )
  • Give thanks and appreciation whenever you can
  • Place something on your work/study station to remind yourself about your buddy (this can be a photo, keepsake from a past event, etc.)
  • Wear/carry around a token to remind yourself about your buddy
  • Send a gift (can be something simple like a thoughtful note)
  • Give him/her a hug, high-five, etc.

Becoming a Better Buddy

Self-Development

In order to be a good buddy, you should get to know yourself a little better first. Self-growth is important because you become a more confident person when you know where your strengths and weaknesses lay, and what your values and limits are. When you understand yourself a little more, it is easier to become a better buddy.


Here are a few activities you can do to help boost your self-development:

Create a list of values and list them according to the significance they have to you. (example of values include: “Integrity”, “Responsibility”, “Equality”, “Fairness”, “Punctuality”…) Which values do you find indispensable and which ones are not as important? Were you surprised at some of the results?

Being There for your Buddy

In situations where you are needed, be available and show that you care:

  • Be there — just your presence sometimes is enough. Think of a time when you just needed a shoulder to cry on or the open arms of someone to run into.
  • Listen — sometimes we just need someone to listen to us. Focus only on listening; don't criticise, judge, or give advice unless your buddy asks for it. Sometimes our opinions do not help and only cause more pain. The best thing we can do is just be compassionate and empathetic by offering our ears in silent understanding.
  • Understand - Ask simple questions to clarify - make sure you really understand (don’t pretend if you do not get it). Put yourself in his/her shoes and look at the situation from his/her point of view.
  • Encourage - Use words of affirmation to comfort, empower, and inspire.

Being There for your Buddy

Express your feelings to your buddy—let them know how you're feeling by using the gentlest words possible. (try to say “I feel…”, “it hurts me…”). It's not always easy to remain empathetic to the person who's hurt you but it prevents future arguments and escalations of hard feelings.

Never accuse or blame your buddy. Don’t play the blame game—no one likes to be told it's their fault. You can't change what happened but you always have the power to choose how you handle it. Try not to put your buddy in a tough place by placing the blame on him/her. Instead, focus on communicating to him/her how you can correct the situation so it doesn't reoccur.